Trust

Sometimes in movies, they say, "don't trust anyone." That is often said for dramatic effect. But is it true in real life?

The truth is, it's complicated. In real life, you probably have a friend who you think you can trust. For instance, I have friends that it seems like I can trust. But unfortunately, I can not trust myself.

For instance, I have a hard time leaving the house without checking of the stove burners are off. I turn them off every day, but then after I walk down five flights of stairs, I have to walk back up and make sure. Sometimes, I walk halfway to the train, and then have to walk back.

You might be thinking, "but you can trust yourself, see, you're just being careful. Because every time you go back, the burners are off."

But sometimes, they aren't. Sometimes I leave them on.

So you see, I can't trust myself. But that also means, I can't trust anyone else, not even friends. But this is O.K. Because now I don't feel worried about trusting them, and no one has to tell me.

The lesson is, don't let distrust get in the way of making friends. The important thing is that, even after you make a friend, you can get rid of a friend. You can say, "I'm sorry, guy I work with who always smells like garlic bagels, and wears that weird blue shirt, I'm afraid I can no longer be your friend since there is no way I can trust you. With anything."

If you have been making a lot of friends, losing just one shouldn't matter. It's more important that, a friend be good to you, than vice-versa.